Remembering to Remember

Taking care of a newborn would be a cinch if I didn’t also have to take care of a demanding toddler. Everyday is an exercise in practicing patience and reframing my perspective to have a positive attitude and build up the mental and physical stamina to meet the demands of the day. 

During this new period of transitioning to a mother of 2, I work hard to constantly remind myself of these truths:

  • The main reason I wanted to have another child was to give my toddler a sibling, a lifelong friend. 
  • This phase is temporary and a tiny blip in the scheme of eternal life and my relationship with my children.
  • I will have my free time again to enjoy my hobbies and develop my talents.
  • I will be able to return to a full-time career and travel to professional conferences.
  • I will have my body back again and not have my wardrobe be dictated by breastfeeding needs.
  • My husband and I will regain our freedom to travel and our spontaneity to go on dates.
  • I will be able to sleep the whole night again and sleep in on weekends.
  • This is the life I wished, prayed, planned, and prepared for since I was a teenager.
  • Many women long and pray for the life I have now.
  • Marriage and motherhood are part of God’s plan of happiness and He will support us through it.
  • I don’t have to and shouldn’t mother alone. God is a prayer away, ready to help me. 
  • Many women are in much more challenging situations while having to raise young children.

There is no greater privilege and responsibility than raising up children of God to give them mortal bodies, teach them true principles, love and watch them grow, and reach their full potential. I truly believe this. 


I just need to remember it.


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